Funny thing is, the more we say yes, the less we can actually follow through on those commitments. It’s like a juggling act where you just keep adding more balls without really thinking about which ones you can catch.
A reframe that might be interesting to play with: inside every ‘yes’ there is a ‘no’ / inside every ’no’ there is a ’yes’. Because of your optimists wiring the later will likely be more attractive to explore…
Saying no can be even harder for women professionals. We are socially conditioned to be pleasers and to say yes. It takes practice to say no without a long follow up explanation, just simply “No, that doesn’t work for my schedule.”
With every next year, I try to be more and more intentional with my yeses. After having a baby, though, I became ruthless with that.
Now, I still jump into new projects I'm really passionate about and can't stop thinking about, but this time, it happens much less compared to before as my time and energy are more limited than ever.
In the past, I used to say 'yes' all the time. The result? Zero time, zero self-improvement. Instead, I was helping others save time and improve themselves at times. I no longer care about other people's opinions; I decline proposals and I see (without caring) that they appreciate me more. My work and my hobbies are worth more than any fake friend.
Funny thing is, the more we say yes, the less we can actually follow through on those commitments. It’s like a juggling act where you just keep adding more balls without really thinking about which ones you can catch.
A reframe that might be interesting to play with: inside every ‘yes’ there is a ‘no’ / inside every ’no’ there is a ’yes’. Because of your optimists wiring the later will likely be more attractive to explore…
This particular article had me hooked and took me into all the depths!
Love ya Gary bee 🐝 🫡
Saying no can be even harder for women professionals. We are socially conditioned to be pleasers and to say yes. It takes practice to say no without a long follow up explanation, just simply “No, that doesn’t work for my schedule.”
With every next year, I try to be more and more intentional with my yeses. After having a baby, though, I became ruthless with that.
Now, I still jump into new projects I'm really passionate about and can't stop thinking about, but this time, it happens much less compared to before as my time and energy are more limited than ever.
In the past, I used to say 'yes' all the time. The result? Zero time, zero self-improvement. Instead, I was helping others save time and improve themselves at times. I no longer care about other people's opinions; I decline proposals and I see (without caring) that they appreciate me more. My work and my hobbies are worth more than any fake friend.